Reclaiming your evenings: the quest for balance

Best advice for detaching, from digital detox to mental rituals.

Today’s featured Reddit discussion explores the struggle Product Managers have detaching from work, even after hours, because as the OP (Original Poster) says, "I love my job, but I have a hard time actually detaching from it after hours".

It's a common problem in product management's always-on culture, and the Reddit thread offers a mix of commiseration, coping mechanisms, and dark humor.

Establish Digital Boundaries

Many Product Managers advise creating distance from work-related technology: "Don't put work stuff on your phone". Some suggest setting strict notification rules and silencing work apps after hours. The goal? To create a clear boundary between work and personal time, despite the temptation to check in.

However, complete disconnection isn't always feasible, especially with roles that span time zones or involve urgent responsibilities. One commenter expresses a common sentiment: "Honestly, at this point, I don't think it's possible because of the team and people you are competing with for your job plus how our management is always on and replying to emails and messages at 12 PM or 5 AM". This highlights the pressure to remain constantly available, which makes "switching off" seem impossible.

Develop Rituals and Mindsets

Beyond managing technology, Product Managers emphasize mental strategies to detach from work. Several people advocate for a "shut off" ritual to signal the end of the workday. This might include meditation, journaling, or a symbolic activity like walking the dog. These routines help transition your mind from work mode to relaxation mode.

Cultivating the right mindset is also crucial. One commenter suggests a helpful mantra: "Work me is available during work hours. Once those hours are done, I am no longer work me. The work will always be there tomorrow. Once you master this mindset, you're golden". This emphasizes setting boundaries and recognizing that work is part of life, not its entirety. Another commenter offers a darkly humorous approach to work stress: "Embrace the severance".

Acknowledge the Human Factor

Some acknowledge that achieving work-life balance might require significant changes, such as setting clearer expectations, changing jobs, or reevaluating career priorities.

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Want to dive deeper into the conversation? Join the discussion on the original Reddit thread For real: how do you guys actually detach from work? and share your own experiences.